YO SOY 3RD GENERACION BORICUA

Yes, the title is indeed alluding to how I, Ruthy Harris, am a third-generation Puerto Rican in the United States of America.

Now, I want to begin by saying this may seem like an odd read, but I feel compelled to tell my perspective on being a Buffalo, New York native in search of your responses and feedback on this entry. My direct email is blossomandexcel@gmail.com.

My purpose is to encourage anyone who may have had similar experiences or thoughts. And for those who cannot relate, it is my hope that you can help someone or at least empathize.

“The more you seek approval, the more you repel authenticity ” – Brendon Burchard

I am forty years old and have finally come to terms with my personal identity. As this may open the floor to criticism, I welcome your perspective. I first realized I was not accepted within my proposed culture of being Boricua at the early age of 9 years old. Long thick hair that had to be hot combed to show its length over my shoulders and down my back. I had a caramel-tone complexion and hazel-brown eyes. I am Boricua and Morena.

Yes, three of my grandparents hail directly from the island of Puerto Rico, I can say with such enthusiasm and affection which I still hold until this day! I have my fourth grandparent being African American and Cherokee Indian. Hindsight, for me it is no mystery why I had such a conflicted identity crisis, especially entering high school.

Now, many individuals may face similar dilemmas nowadays as interracial couples and mixed children are now so very common.

I am mixed, grew up on parts of the west and east sides of Buffalo, and had the privilege of attending a parochial high school that was predominately Caucasian.

Nevertheless, I quoted Brendon Burchard as a predictor of what a person in such a situation as I may need to reference.  As with many individuals, this statement resonates with me since I struggled with acceptance from several cultures. Now, I aim for authentic relationships, based on fundamental core values like honesty, kindness, respect, and love.

To me, it’s important to know who you are within so that you can work without limitations and unnecessary boundaries on expected personality traits based on outward appearance. Go ahead, get to know and love who you are right now. And, then go ahead and get to know others well and spread more love.

Many best wishes to you as you also remember to enjoy your day, every day

Ruthy Harris is available to speak about her experience as a “PUERTO RICAN WITH DARK SKIN”, and other topics of interest to the growth and development of our cultures and communities.  Email us: latinovillage1@gmail.com / 646-248-2302