TWO PUNKS WITH GUNS

TWO PUNKS WITH GUNS Just as I was gearing up to write this month’s column that was to be dedicated to the horrific mass shooting that happened at Tops on Jefferson, news of another horrific mass shooting broke, this time in Uvalde Texas, involving elementary school children. Both affected me for two different reasons. The Buffalo shooting shook me due to my familiarity with my hometown and because of where it happened; Tops Friendly Markets. I can’t say I ever visited the Tops on Jefferson. As a true west sider, the only two Tops Markets I visited consistently were Tops on Niagara Street,  and occasionally, Tops on Grant/Amherst. However, my lack of familiarity with the store still made the terrible news feel close. As a kid in High School, I spent my years working at the (old) Tops storinon Niagara & Maryland as a cartboy, stock boy stocking shelves, and finally got into working in the dairy/frozen department. When the news broke of the racist rampage at Tops on Jefferson, I pictured myself as a kid, working at Tops, being in the situation those poor souls found themselves on that fateful afternoon when their lives were senselessly taken. These folks were milling about doing normal Saturday afternoon tasks and just like that, their sparks were all extinguished, all because a racist punk with a gun just could not accept the fact that Black people exist. Seeing friends back home “Mark themselves as safe” on social media was a little distressing, especially knowing that 10 people would never have the chance to do so. When the news of a shooting in an elementary school in Uvalde Texas broke, my heart grew angry and scared. As a father of three young children, two in elementary school, I just could not help but put myself in those parents’ shoes, the parents whose children were murdered for no other reason than being in the classroom on the last week of school. My immediate reaction was to take my children out of school. When I dropped them off at school the next morning, I just couldn’t help but think of the parents who dropped off their children the day before, just as I had, who didn’t have a clue that this would be the last time they would see their children alive.  Again, because of another punk with a gun. We cannot become numb to these massacres. People in both mass shootings want to look at the mental well-being of both shooters and point to mental illness as the reason almost 30 people died in the 10 days from the Buffalo shooting to Uvalde. Mental illness is not an American-exclusive condition. Mental health is something all countries worldwide deal with, however, the US is the only country in the world where mass shootings have become a common occurrence. The common denominator? The guns are easily accessible to people who may be deemed mentally ill or not. Read More From This Writer All Post Business Culture Entertainment Food Government Health Interviews Lower West Side Business & Economic Development Medical Our Community Peace People Sports TWO PUNKS WITH GUNS June 18, 2022/No Comments POST TITLE (CAPITAL) Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus Read More FROM A FILMMAKER’S  POINT OF VIEW May 18, 2022/No Comments FROM A FILMMAKER’S  POINT OF VIEW On Saturday, April 9th, I had the honor and privilege of screening my film, Read More THAT’S A WRAP! April 18, 2022/No Comments THAT’S A WRAP! I’ve spent the bulk of the last year and a half putting together a documentary film that Read More Load More End of Content.

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EN ESTE TIEMPO DIFICIL,  NECESITAMOS UN MOMENTO JUSTO POR LA PAZ…

KEEPING OUR BALANCE IN THE WHIRLWIND! After the #BuffaloMassacre – we are flattened, angry, overwhelmed, fearful, grieving, and enraged! After so many have suffered centuries of trauma from White Supremacy, Patriarchy, economic oppression, war, violence, and more, comes another shooter, comes another tragedy, comes another assault on our children, our beloveds, and our safety. How can we continue functioning, parenting, nurturing, and caring for each other? Of course, how can we not? We know our beloved children, families, friends, neighbors, and all our relations – need our support. So we must continue to Stay Strong! We must act for real change regarding gun violence, White Supremacy, hatemongering, and more…  — topics we’ll pursue!! However, to make any progress, we must also practice self-care. Remember, in an airplane, the flight attendant says, “If you are traveling with children or other dependents, please take care of your needs first, so you are better able to assist.” If we struggle to get another’s mask on while losing oxygen ourselves, disaster looms. The Wonderful and the Terrible are so very present in our world and indelibly intertwined. We have seen – and continue to see – the Terrible. However, the responses include the wonderfully loving generous, and even heroic actions of so many. The s/heroes on the scene, the s/heros in the back rooms, organizing community support – in crises as well as in attending to every day often desperate needs. The natural community leaders; the natural nurturers, comforters, and defenders…. They persist. Often in shifts, spelling each other off – sharing inspiration, energy, and strategies for coping and acting for the community. We must pace ourselves, take breaks when feasible, and above all put some joy and beauty in every day. We each know what renews our strength – music, laughter, children, community, nature, the Creation, the Creator – and we owe ourselves – and each other – those activities and sources of renewal!! That’s how we can continue, stronger together, Juntos – Si, Se Puede! Don’t forget to: Deep Slow Breathing. It brings more oxygen into our bodies, a known and proven stress reducer. Even mere conscious breathing relaxes us – just the mention of our breath puts us on a different wavelength. (Didn’t it?) And if we develop a certain comfort with focusing on our breathing, we can pick our saying, akin to a mantra – a short prayer, affirmation, or saying that makes us feel the way we want to feel – and use it to time our breathing. We repeat it to ourselves as we breathe in; again, as we hold our breath; and then twice as we breathe out (sometimes called square breathing). The repetition allows us to feed our spirit, as we are feeding extra oxygen to our bodies. And the more we practice it, the more it helps. It can be practiced virtually anytime, anywhere. Above all, we must turn to the sources of our strength, our faith: Truth and Love, as Rev. Dr. King said. And the Beloved Community. Siempre: Juntos – Si, se puede! Read More From This Writer All Post Art Books & Poems Business Community Education Entertainment español Food & Culture Health Interviews Military & Veterans Peace People Politics A TRAGEDY July 4, 2023/No Comments LEADING TO AN ANTI-BULLYING CAMPAIGN (a Community Responders Pilot and a Peace Ship for a Nuclear-Free Future) Hola, mis Amigos!!  Read More CAMP PEACEPRINTS 2023: HEALTHY LIVES MATTER June 4, 2023/No Comments ¡Hola, Amigos! Pronto sera el tiempo por los ninos para ir a campamentos de verano. We are excited to present Read More EMBRACING BUFFALO / HEALING MOMENTS May 10, 2023/No Comments EMBRACING BUFFALO / HEALING MOMENTS “No podemos dejar que la gente abra brechas entre nosotros… porque solo hay una raza Read More Load More End of Content.

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“HEALING DIFFERENTLY”

“HEALING DIFFERENTLY” At first, glance, if you haven’t met her and I’m not around you’ll be apt to begin a casual conversation with her. She’ll listen and interact and at some point, you’ll likely wonder why I’m not responding to you in a way you’d expect. She will wait for a moment to hear you and THEN EXPLAIN – “You MUST know my Twin Sister!” You’ll have a blank stare; say you didn’t know I had a twin, and everyone has a laugh!  Yes. We are Identical Mirror Twin Sisters. And even though we look alike we still have different personalities, interests & sets of friends. So, this is how our friends usually meet the Other Twin. Jacqueline Bontzolakes earned a Bachelor’s in Social Work at Daemon College and worked at the Erie County Department of Social Services. She attended the University of Buffalo & earned credits toward a Master’s in Social Work. Massive layoffs in 2009 removed the security she once felt in having a government job.  She was eventually called back but during her unexpected leave, she started to explore avenues that would NEVER again leave her wondering about her future, taking care of children & paying bills.  Her search led her to the New York Institute of Massage. I remember so vividly helping her juggle clinical school and nurturing two children and growing a 3rd baby! She had that baby and still went to school within a week to complete clinical to avoid having to wait a year to take the boards! AND She Passed the Boards! She was not playing!! She formed Diamond Therapeutic Arts, LLC and went Full Time AND on Faith after witnessing difficult & toxic situations at work.  Jacqueline is a Natural Healer. Her Drive & Dedication to helping people heal naturally is as unceasing as it was 16 years ago! She’s not only MASSAGING them. Many of her customers confide in her for personal struggles. They go to her for advice on nutritional supplements, skin care products, exercise regimens, and health & wellness recommendations. Some even come to know her as a True Friend. She’s been rated “Top Pro” on Thumbtack, which is a platform for customers to rate professionals. She’s also rated 4.4/5 on Facebook. You can check these platforms for her reviews and make appointments. She’s absolutely the First of ONLY therapists I would EVER book an appointment with and not because she is my twin sister. Her hands magically find the areas that you didn’t even know hurt. Once that area is addressed you realize that’s what prevented you from moving another part of your body. It is an experience, and it confirms that our human body is interconnected.  I chose to honor her this month because we are Celebrating 48 Years on the Earth Side, on June 4th, and if you see her show, send her some Birthday LOVE! For those of you who ARE Ready to Heal Differently and want or need to LOVE Yourself, book an appointment; I promise — YOU WILL NOT regret it! Read More From This Writer All Post Food Health Interviews Lower West Side Business & Economic Development People “HEALING DIFFERENTLY” June 13, 2022/No Comments POST TITLE (CAPITAL) Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus Read More “LIVING IN THE DICHOTOMY!” May 13, 2022/No Comments “LIVING IN THE DICHOTOMY!” In honor of National Police Enforcement Week, I recognize Cariol Horne of Cariol’s Law. A resolution Read More JUWERIA DAHIR April 13, 2022/No Comments JUWERIA DAHIR The complexities of interwoven communities like Buffalo, NY might give some pause as people struggle to maintain their Read More Load More End of Content.

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