Tears Are for the Living Part 1

I often highlight the Uncrowned Queens & Kings within our Community. They are typically with us here on Earth, among the living. The recent transitions of two individuals from the physical to the spiritual realm on June 4th have profoundly affected our interconnected community, with some impacts still unknown. Uncrowned Queen SaSeongNim Nancy Maria Fernandez, a 9th Degree Black Belt in Taekwondo, is the first Boricua woman to attain this level of recognition. Within our Jami Masjid Community of students, it was shared that she embraced Islam on July 19th, 2013, finding numerous similarities between the principles of Taekwondo and Islam, thereby also becoming the first Muslimah to reach this rank. Throughout her years teaching in Buffalo’s community centers, her latest Tiger TKD classes were held at PUSH Buffalo & Jami Masjid to serve both the East and West Sides. As her health declined, she received assistance from her cherished companion, Boo Sabumnim Smith, and her beloved only son, Sabumnim Ogbe Naheem Shabazz Fernandez. SaSeongNim Fernandez came highly recommended by my dear friend, George Nash. She was his babysitter during his childhood. He assured me that I should have her teach my son because of her firm yet loving approach. I can affirm that all who attended her classes, and whose children were under her tutelage, would agree. When my son Asheem and I started classes at Jami last fall, it felt as though I had known her forever, despite most of our interactions happening on Facebook over the past three years. I recall her saying, “Well, it took you long enough to bring him!” She had a unique way of conveying that you were wasting her time while also expressing her love. You learned to adjust your behavior without feeling bad or guilty. She wasn’t interested in excuses, only in seeing a change in your actions—like attending class, arriving on time, and not delivering lazy kicks or punches. Reflecting on her life as a mother of three, with grandchildren, and the dedication required to reach the status of a Taekwondo Grandmaster, it’s evident that her teaching style is deserving of immense respect. The thought of her competing with men because no woman matched her level truly crowns her as a Shero in my eyes, filled with tears. After class or during phone conversations, SaSeongNim would open up about her personal life, and I would reciprocate by sharing mine. Now, I cherish the pearls of wisdom she imparted to me over the past months. Her words echo in my mind: “I don’t have a lot of time to waste!” Initially, I believed she meant we should focus more in class. It became clear her health was failing, but I couldn’t accept that she was hinting at her imminent departure. During her final classes at Jami, she arrived with a large plug-in oxygen tank, taking a seat to direct us. Subsequently, she phoned me to discuss creating a flyer for the upcoming tournament/competition, emphasizing the inclusion of PUSH BUFFALO & JAMI MASJID as sponsors. I presented it to her at her bedside during our farewell. I expressed to her my desire to make her proud. I believe we all share this aspiration. I distributed the flyer among her children, trusting that our Taekwondo community and everyone who knew her will ensure this tournament is unforgettable or remembered.  — ÀSÉ. Read More From This Writer All Post Art Books & Poems Business Column Community Community News Education Entertainment español Food & Culture Health Interviews Media Military & Veterans Music Peace People Politics Sports Technology Tears Are for the Living July 22, 2024/No Comments Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo. Read More… Read More Fragrance Harris-Stanfield IN THE MIDST OF STRUGGLE June 6, 2024/No Comments Residents of Buffalo, NY, including myself, have been profoundly affected by the events of May 14, 2022. I still find… Read More OUR MOMMIE VILLAGE April 4, 2024/6 Comments March was Women’s History Month and who better to shine the spotlight on other than the Founder, Shyana Broughton, the… Read More Load More End of Content.

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PRESIDENT BIDEN DROPS OUT, ENDORSES HARRIS TO LEAD THE TICKET

President Joe Biden has announced that he is withdrawing from the 2024 presidential race. In a letter released on social media, he stated that he believes it is in the best interest of his party and the country for him to step aside. Biden emphasized the progress made during his presidency, including economic growth, Heathcare improvements, and significant climate legislation. He plans to focus on fulfilling his duties for the remainder of his term. In his announcement, he also endorsed his Vice President Kamela Harris to be the party’s nominee. Read More From Buffalo Latino Village All Post Community News PRESIDENT BIDEN DROPS OUT, ENDORSES HARRIS TO LEAD THE TICKET July 22, 2024/No Comments Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo. Read More… Read More BRINGING HOPE TO OTHER LOSS SURVIVORS HAS HELPED ME HEAL July 19, 2024/No Comments By July Battista This Volunteer Spotlight story originally appeared in AFSP’s 2023 Annual Report. To read other inspiring Volunteer Spotlight… Read More The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Shines Light on Reducing Mental Health and Suicide Stigma in Latinx and Hispanic Communities July 19, 2024/No Comments The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), a leading suicide prevention organization in the U.S., is continuing to advance health… Read More Load More End of Content.

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BRINGING HOPE TO OTHER LOSS SURVIVORS HAS HELPED ME HEAL

By July Battista This Volunteer Spotlight story originally appeared in AFSP’s 2023 Annual Report. To read other inspiring Volunteer Spotlight stories, and to learn more about our exciting work, visit our website.  In 2008, at the age of 20, Judy Battista’s son Daniel died by suicide. Judy and her family decided to be open to others that Danny’s death was by suicide, and to learn more about this leading cause of death. Met with love and support from her community, she was invited to an Out of the Darkness Walk. Later that year, she attended her first International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day (also known as Survivor Day) event and began volunteering for AFSP. In addition to coordinating the Healing Conversations program for her chapter and hosting numerous Survivor Day events over the years, Judy was also a panelist for Día de Esperanza (Day of Hope), a national virtual panel discussion taking place a day before Survivor Day, offering support specifically for Hispanic and Latinx communities that have been affected by suicide loss. “We all grieve differently. As I began to find my path after losing Danny, I realized that giving to others in Danny’s memory was a gift of healing to myself, too. The Loss & Healing programs are the heart of AFSP. Being able to speak to loss survivors, equipped with the confidence of science-based research, is a gift of compassion, empathy, and love we share. I organized my first Survivor Day event in 2009. Fast-forward, and it’s 14 years later! Each chapter is unique in how they present their International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day program, and therein lies the beauty of it. It is a healing event made up of moments: a day that people look around and see they are not alone. The sense of unity is powerful, and that is where the healing magic happens. Some people attend once and move forward. Others return year after year. I feel like a proud mother, seeing how they have grown in their own healing experience. As a Latina, I was glad to participate this year in the Día de Esperanza (Day of Hope) event. I grew up in a dual language household, and we only spoke about mental health in passing. There are over 21 different Spanish-speaking countries, and each has its own cultural values passed down through generations. The Día de Esperanza conversation was held in Spanish. For those of us who are bilingual, it feels like living in two worlds. I had processed suicide loss grief more in English. Having these conversations in Spanish is like flipping an empanada to cook it on the other side! It is a profound, internal shift that is both validating and empowering. It helps me grieve and heal in both languages. As a Healing Conversations volunteer, you sometimes see your own journey in people whose loss is more recent. The training for the program is incredible, and one learns to listen, cry, laugh or just sit in silence with them. It really is a sacred space. Healing Conversations volunteers must have empathy, compassion, and the ability to identify, listen and offer hope. I may not know a person’s exact pain, but I may have felt something parallel with them. It’s like looking in a mirror, to a past reflection of myself. As one loss survivor said to me after a visit, ‘Thank you for giving me hope — at least I know I can survive as long as you have!’ We don’t stop grieving. We don’t stop loving. As much as we change because of our loss, we remain our authentic selves. Through my involvement with AFSP, I have learned to be the voice of the voiceless, to have more compassion, and that I am a good mother. I have learned that helping others is helping yourself, too. That love never dies. This is Danny’s gift to me.” Are you in a crisis? Call or text 988 or text TALK to 741741 ¿Estás en una crisis?Llama o envía un mensaje de texto al 988 o envía un mensaje de texto con AYUDA al 741741 Read More From This Writer All Post Art Books & Poems Business Column Community Community News Education Entertainment español Food & Culture Health Interviews Media Military & Veterans Music Peace People Politics Sports Technology BRINGING HOPE TO OTHER LOSS SURVIVORS HAS HELPED ME HEAL July 19, 2024/No Comments Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo. Read More… Read More The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Shines Light on Reducing Mental Health and Suicide Stigma in Latinx and Hispanic Communities July 19, 2024/No Comments The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), a leading suicide prevention organization in the U.S., is continuing to advance health… Read More El Festival del Libro July 11, 2024/1 Comment El Festival del Libro, a program of La Fortaleza Project, aims to market and promote Puerto Rican/Latino poets, writers, and… Read More Load More End of Content.

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