“MODERN MODESTY BEGINS WITH ME”

“MODERN MODESTY BEGINS WITH ME” “Our  Mission  is to  help  women  feel  Empowered in their  modest  clothing,  leaving  you  feeling comfortable  and  confident in  your  clothes.” Julie Algubani As this is Women’s History Month, I wanted to highlight a beautiful woman who has done so much in her immediate community and beyond – especially in the vein of Women’s Empowerment!  I met her through a mutual friend several years ago and we have stayed in contact on and off for over 10 years. My most memorable moment invested with her was when she asked, and I agreed, to help at World Hijab Day on February 1st, 2015, at the Walden Galleria. We had so much fun connecting with so many local women from all walks of life to encourage them to try on a hijab. The response was overwhelmingly positive!  Most recently, we reconnected as we were competing in an “All Ideas Pitch Contest”, where we both won a Monetary Prize for our Business Ideas! Julie Algubani is the Owner of Modesty Marketplace. Her desire to open the shop on January 1st, 2021, came from a frustration that many women experience when trying to shop for the perfect outfit, particularly modern-looking modest clothing! This laid the foundation for the one-stop boutique “for fashion-forward women who don’t want to sacrifice style for modesty. The handpicked pieces are curated from international designers from places like Dubai and Turkey.” The boutique also features products from local businesswomen and nonprofits, including a local non-profit, Buffalo Stich, which helps low-income & refugees develop their skills and talents and turn them into profits.  Beyond that, she has regularly hosted pop-ups at the boutique to assist local female entrepreneurs to share their businesses, talents, and wares! When you meet Julie, you FEEL her! Her passion, love, and even her sense of humor with all she does is a whole VIBE. The experience – whether at the shop, at an entrepreneur event, a panelist, or listening to her at a speaking engagement – is a time you will not soon forget. Julie truly is the embodiment of Modesty Marketplace’s motto ~ “Elegant, Exclusive, Empowering.” So, for Women’s History Month and for every event that you intend on attending this year & beyond – where you want to stand out in a unique and handpicked outfit – YOUR search will begin and end there! No more multiple stores to string together the perfect outfit for YOU!  Visit her on all social media platforms, including TikTok, where she frequently posts: Customer Reviews, Tunic Tuesday, Women Empower Women Wednesday, Outfit of The Day, Tips on Modesty, and Specials. For people outside the immediate Buffalo & Erie County area, they can visit her wonderful online shop at: www.modestymarketplace.co/ I highly recommend that you and your friends visit Modesty Marketplace, located at 4498 Main Street, Amherst, NY. Make sure to call or check store hours before heading out.  Lastly, SHARE your Modesty Begins with Me experiences and tag her when you do…  You never know when your testimony or photo will land on her ‘Socials’ for the world to see! Read More From This Writer All Post Food Health Interviews Lower West Side Business & Economic Development People “MODERN MODESTY BEGINS WITH ME” March 13, 2023/No Comments POST TITLE (CAPITAL) Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus Read More “PULLING THE RACE CARD”, LITERALLY February 13, 2023/No Comments “PULLING THE RACE CARD”, LITERALLY As we celebrate Black History Month, I wanted to feature my Sisters Sarah Pearson Collins Read More REDEMPTION STORIES: TOMMY WALKER January 13, 2023/No Comments REDEMPTION STORIES: TOMMY WALKER In preparing to write the first article of 2023, I listened to Bob Marley’s Redemption Song. Read More Load More End of Content.

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Interview #27: NORMA SANTIAGO

NORMA (The normal Latina HerStory interviews will return next month. The writer would like to share a tragedy she discovered on social media which was very close to her past and  journey): Norma Santiago was a loving mother who fell victim to gun violence perpetrated inside her children’s public school at the hands of her estranged husband. She was the first person I ever knew whose life was taken. My father and Norma’s husband were both law enforcement officers and our families were bonded one summer, but not for long; Mom noticed Norma’s husband was “not the nicest” and though my father was no boy scout (he was – but you get what I’m saying), and he agreed. During our last shared family outing, I was never able to forget… I didn’t like Ferris wheels. I volunteered because I could see she feared going up with him alone.  A milestone, in the building or development of my young self-confidence, I felt proud that I could help someone.  That moment was immediately followed by a sobering sense of dread. While we were suspended in the air, I watched his eyes as he mentally fantasized about pushing her over. Being from the hood, guessing at what was coming next — the struggle for survival. He never pushed her out of the car that day, but I’ll never forget his eyes, full of rage. Ten years old and smart enough, I knew something bad was going to happen. I told mom he was going to kill her. I remember her taking me seriously; that was the last time we saw them, but I continue to see his eyes forever. A handful of years later, she was gone. There’s a blog I found memorializing her life and news coverage about her passing. I teared up when I found the page, there she was, in a bumper car, at an amusement park.  Part of my life is dedicated to advocating for vulnerable women and children as I had once been. Being honored as a storyteller this coming month I reflected. Whose story is left to tell? I decided Justice is best served in the form of a celebration of one’s life. Norma, may you rest in peace you have not been forgotten.  The following is an anonymous contribution by someone on the site of the murder:      How did the act of violence that culminated in Norma’s passing affect your life? The act of violence changed my life because it was the first time, I remember experiencing trauma. I couldn’t articulate that as a child, but I distinctly remember knowing something evil just took place. I remember feeling scared and I remember seeing the body bag being rolled out of the door. I remember thinking “she’s dead” there were people everywhere, and so much confusion.      What did you learn that day? I think what I learned that day was that men are dangerous. That I should fear my future husband. No matter how long it’s been, I always think back to that man taking his wife’s life. I feared men. I feared having a husband.     What do you remember overall? My overall impression was fear. I think there was fear instilled in me that day that has never left my body, now I’m triggered when I must do active shooter drills at work.  I was 7 years old back then; I was in second grade. I knew the family because one of their daughters was my classmate at the time and the other daughter was in my sister’s class. I haven’t spoken to them since 1997. Read More From This Writer All Post Art Books & Poems Business Community Education Entertainment español Food & Culture Health Interviews Military & Veterans Peace People Politics INTERVIEW #31: MARIA CRUZ July 4, 2023/No Comments On June 2, 2007, I posted my first Facebook photo. I made identity-affirming Latina-centered student content before it was seen Read More INTERVIEW #30: CASSANDRA BOCANEGRA PONCE June 4, 2023/No Comments My son is a six-year-old CEO. We started a brand because he likes art and I found it easier to Read More INTERVIEW #29: CHRISTINA RODRIGUERZ May 4, 2023/No Comments “The movie must have at least two women in it, who talk to each other, about something other than a Read More Load More End of Content.

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UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA

Many who have endured trauma suffer from anxiety. The good news, however, is that anxiety treatment is effective in most cases, and some very simple practices can keep anxiety at bay in the future. Anxiety can manifest with a mild case of the jitters to a terror so great we are afraid to leave our own homes. Following are a few strategies to assist with anxiety. There is no universal tool for dealing with anxiety as we are unique beings. Try several tools to discover what works best for you. Many techniques mentioned will reduce stress and strife immediately. The first and most simple and direct way to calm anxiety is something we do every day. Breathing is our instrument to calm. Our breath is our instrument.  Problems arise t when we are anxious because we automatically breathe in a way that can make our anxiety worse. Practice belly breathing.   Breathe slowly and deeply so that our belly expands with each breath we take and contracts when we exhale.  When we are anxious, we tend to talk to ourselves in negative ways.  Negative messages fuel our anxiety, which increases catastrophic thoughts. Anxiety is very often a future-oriented condition. We worry about what might happen.  The “what if” can never be answered at the moment and thus causes anxiety. Mindfulness activities have been proven to decrease anxiety.  Practice mindfulness while walking by using your senses to focus on your surroundings. Guided meditation is helpful while you simply observe your thoughts.  Give music your undivided attention. Use your non–dominant hand to draw a picture. Close your eyes while keeping your pencil on the paper and draw your portrait.  These 54321 exercises will help you be in the moment. Discover 5 items you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 objects you can hear, 2 items you can smell, and 1 item you can taste. Name the items and intentionally observe them. These practices can reliably reduce your anxiety, but it does take practice and focus. Counseling for anxiety can also be helpful if symptoms are more severe or longstanding. Joining a meditation group, physical exercise, or taking classes in Tai Chi, Yoga, or Qi Gong can help decrease anxiety too.  Next edition we will tackle yet another symptom of trauma: depression. Read More From This Writer All Post Art Books & Poems Business Community Education Entertainment español Food & Culture Health Interviews Military & Veterans Peace People Politics CALL FOR ARTISTS! July 5, 2023/No CommentsRead More UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA June 5, 2023/No Comments In contemporary society, we hear the term PTSD for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder very often. This is the new buzzword or Read More INVESTING IN OURSELVES: UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA May 2, 2023/No Comments Depression & anxiety are common problems that can develop after trauma.  Depression ignites feelings of sadness and low mood. These Read More Load More End of Content.

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