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THIS IS FEBRUARY: THE MONTH TO PONDER ON LOVE I wish to write about the first man I loved so much that many fallen short of him. Age 12: I remember when I was busy trying to dress appropriate for an ice-skating party. Not only did you help me buy the clothes, but showed me what colors work for me. Age 13: I recalled how we walked from our home to Lincoln Center, miles away. Not only did you try to patiently answer all the questions I had about life, but you told me I could change whatever I wanted. Age 14: I remember taking the train and following you to a gang fight where you were the leader. Not only did I follow you, but I quickly stood next to you. Age 15: I sadly remember seeing you cry when your girlfriend left you. You said if they are worth loving, they are worth crying about. Age 16: I remember when you told me, you would not shoot women and children. You said it was their land and those women and children were not soldiers. Age 17: I remember you saying, finish what you start and don’t start something you are not going to finish. You said you would be at my high school graduation, the first of many of my milestones. Then you are getting ready to leave and I cannot take the train to get there. When will I see you again?  Do they know how far this is? In between a young girl’s tears, I asked you, who can be more important than me. Who will dress me?  Who will walk and talk with me? Who will teach me how to fight with honor? Who will teach me about loving and crying? It was then that you said, “We all stand for something.” “I stand to be a soldier and you stand to be the general.” “You will tell others what to do to improve our world, just like on our walks.” “There are many more soldiers waiting for their generals’ orders.” “I may not be back, so make sure you stand for something.” I almost did not want to graduate because you were not there.  I almost cut off all my precious, long hair in protest. I almost walked lifeless for months because you would not be back.  I almost died from a life threatening surgery, and mom brought me your picture. I want you to know I stand for something. Someone who always fights with honor. You are my older brother who died in Viet Nam, and I cried for you most of all. Read More From This Writer All Post Culture Food Government Health Interviews Lower West Side Business & Economic Development Medical Peace People THIS IS FEBRUARY: THE MONTH TO PONDER ON LOVE February 17, 2020/No Comments POST TITLE (CAPITAL) Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus Read More B U L L Y I N G January 17, 2020/No Comments B U L L Y I N G This topic has shown its ugly head in far too many places. Read More Christmas Memories:When we create lifelong memories December 17, 2019/No Comments Christmas Memories: When we create lifelong memories First, everyone is running around trying to outguess and outshine anyone. Your loved Read More Load More End of Content.

B U L L Y I N G This topic has shown its ugly head in far too many places. Most of us are abhorred at the simple idea of it and many seek solutions to address it. What is bullying? For minors, it is when an individual is taunted, belittled, and sometimes physically assaulted by insecure people. It is usually carried out in packs. They sometimes wrongly justify their actions. It really does not matter the reason before they project their ugliness onto an undeserving individual. Sometimes, it causes so much hardship that socially the individual leaves school, town and/ or maybe ends their life. Decisions taken depends greatly on their inner strength, their support system (if any) and what and who is available to help them salvage their dignity. More times than not, their lives are ruined or close to it when they continue to be invalidated. I think most adults would agree they will not tolerate this type of behavior, especially if they have children in schools. Let’s step back for a minute:  Bullying has existed for centuries and it rests on the shoulders of adults. Yes, adults. When an individual solicits a consensus from their family, co-workers, colleagues or others to belittle or ruin someone’s reputation and credibility, it carries the same implication. In some circles of our society, we call it sexism, racism, ageism, and many other politically definitions but as adults we think we are above bullying. NOT!!!! What makes this situation even worst is the indifference and apathy others show while this is happening. Some may even claim to not know. The irony here is that the prosecuted is usually stronger than the offender but does not have weak followers to be accomplices to their atrocious actions. They have been on a solo journey for so long they would not think of soliciting dysfunctional obedience from anyone around them. I have been a witness and recipient to this type of behavior, adult bullying. Fortunate for me, I had an older brother who protected me while being raised in the ghetto and prepared me on how to handle it later in life. The harsh reality was to accept that it is going to happen. He said only the weak resorts to violence, must be in dysfunctional groups, and only survive when others condone their demented behavior. I not only empowered myself with extensive education, confidence and self-defense but made sure I myself would not resort to adult bullying. It is always the offender who is a coward, low life individual who spends his/her time trying to steal the dignity of others. That I am not! Read More From This Writer All Post Culture Food Government Health Interviews Lower West Side Business & Economic Development Medical Peace People B U L L Y I N G January 17, 2020/No Comments POST TITLE (CAPITAL) Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus Read More Christmas Memories:When we create lifelong memories December 17, 2019/No Comments Christmas Memories: When we create lifelong memories First, everyone is running around trying to outguess and outshine anyone. Your loved Read More NOVEMBER, OUR THANKSGIVING MONTH November 17, 2019/No Comments NOVEMBER, OUR THANKSGIVING MONTH On this month, many years ago we are to believe that pilgrims and Indians sat down Read More Load More End of Content.