WINNING WITH KINDNESS
WINNING WITH KINDNESS: ANTI-DISSENSION
April Issue 2019
Dissension, according to Google’s definition, is a disagreement that leads to Discord. Discord, according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is the lack of agreement or harmony (as between persons, things, or ideas).
Now that we have a clearer understanding of what Dissension means, I would like to point out that despite the trying time, we all are going through, we should strive to get along.
Of course, I do not mean we have to believe in each other’s religions or ideas; however, we do need to live in harmony within our communities, within each State and across all lands to the best of our abilities. The upmost best of our ability.
I think we all know how tough dealing with the Coronavirus situation has been. It’s taking a toll everywhere.
I say “Trying is good. Doing is better. Done is best”, and on that note, let’s live within our homes, and our communities in harmony.
I’d like to point out what Dhar Mann* said recently, March 16, 2020:
“Please remember, positivism and kindness are more infectious than any virus. We are called ‘humankind’ for a reason. So spread some love today, and make sure you start with yourself first.”
We are blessed to be a blessing. Until next issue, stay safe and loving.
*Entrepreneur with over 11 million followers in social media. He is known for his theme, “Changing life through inspirational storytelling.”
A Voice from our Young Generation:
RESPECTING EACH OTHER: AVOIDING NEGATIVE SPEECH
December Issue 2019
Negative speech can be disastrous. As there are examples in human history where thousands and even millions of people can be misled. I believe that with raising awareness and implementing positive influence in our behavior, human mankind can avoid negative pitfalls and not repeat previous world conflicts.
I was motivated to speak out or discuss this issue as it pertains to current events that we face every day.
I begin by defining a few terms as they pertain to the concept of Globalization, which is simply the way that countries and people of the world interact and integrate, combining and becoming whole (one). Though this is not particularly a new concept, the idea of respecting each other’s culture as we assimilate, needs constant attention.
Assimilation occurs when there is a minority group that begins to resemble a dominant/main group, assuming its values, behaviors, and the beliefs of that dominant population. This is very evident in today’s ever growing cultural, social and economic “melting pot”, as we witness the slimming of separation of various cultures, such as the case of occurring globalization.
How often have we heard the cliché statement, “We live in a small world after all”, a foreshadow to how closely all human beings relate to one another. Unfortunately, there are those in power that can or do use, in my opinion, this beautiful conceptual life truth to adversely affect a group or groups of people, using derogatory terms, in describing other cultures. This easily allows distraction, separation, misinformation, and consequently, unwarranted hateful feelings toward one another.
This is the clinical point of this piece; despite what words are being promoted or circulated, we must remain united in respecting our cultural differences or diversity and our core human value system.
No one deserves to be slandered. Let us use wise words and decency in all our interactions, to encourage growth
SOME THOUGHTS ON “RESULTS”
September Issue 2019
There are elements that contribute to your ultimate success and measurements that determines your position, always navigating your future outcome; and the key word is “Results.”
There are also a few and vital factors needed to begin building a positive result, such as:
Understanding your current position.
Effective goal settings, and,
Leg work you must do, to continue moving forward, producing positive action.
Of course, the amount of success vary cumulatively, based on the steps you take, or what steps you do not take, or steps you decide not to take.
I recommend that you always should pay attention to details; be thoughtful about what goals you want to achieve, and when you’re sure, begin your journey.
For example, if you own a company, you should surely have a business plan, a marketing strategy, and branding, as these elements are essential business tools in determining your success. If you need assistance with business development, don’t hesitate to reach out; there are many, helpful resources waiting for you to seek and request assistance.
If you have already begun detailing, it is not too late for a professional to overlook or review your path, to insure you’re on the right track – for you and your company’s success.
The same is true in everyday life and specific goals. If you are stagnant, do get moving; and if you need motivation, in today’s world and age, there are a vast amount of life coaches available at your footsteps.
Once you decide to commit to your desired “results”, you need to surround yourself with people that push and support your seriousness, especially in understanding the passion of your vision.
Decision and Commitment need each other to reach the “Results” you want to achieve….
Perception & Perspective
August Issue 2019
Let’s begin by knowing that perception in its definition means the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses. This is particularly important because we all have this awareness in our own specific capabilities which leads me to thinking of how one’s perspective can alter the outcome of what is originally perceived.
Perspective’s meaning is an attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view. So, it is simple to understand that a person’s perspective directly influences their perception and vice versa.
I bring this up because in today’s age of cyberspace, and virtually unlimited data access on the internet, our points of view can be easily skewed or tailored by how we surf the web.
Oftentimes, our accounts on our cell phones and tablets can tailor what we see first in our internet searches. This is typically automatically done by our previous search history on our mobile devices associated with that account.
An issue I can see arising from this convenient tool is that it doesn’t leave much room for random thought process as the norm. I’m not saying you cannot surf outside of suggested content but with our busy American culture and multi-tasking tendencies, there is more of a chance to be led to just read what “pops up”.
I think in some ways that tool is helpful, but if not careful, especially for the younger generations, perhaps we won’t get exposure to other points of view based on what we’re seeing on the internet.
So today, let’s take the time to be mindful of all dynamics or contents that may be available so we can come together.
YO SOY 3RD GENERACION BORICUA
July 2019 Issue
Yes, the title is indeed alluding to how I, Ruthy Harris, am a third generation Puerto Rican in the United States of America.
Now, I want to begin by saying this may seem like an odd read, but I feel compelled to tell my perspective on being a Buffalo, New York native in search of your responses and feedback on this entry. My direct email is email@example.com .
My purpose is to encourage anyone who may have had similar experiences or thoughts. And for those who cannot relate, it is my hope that you can help someone or at its least empathize.
“The more you seek approval, the more you repel authenticity ” – Brendon Burchard
I am forty years old and have finally come to terms with my personal identity. As this may open the floor to criticism, I welcome your perspective. I first realized I was not accepted within my proposed culture of being Boricua at an early age of 9 years old. Long thick hair that had to be hot combed to show its length over my shoulders and down my back. I had a caramel tone complexion and hazel brown eyes. I am Boricua and Morena.
Yes, three of my grandparents hail directly from the island Puerto Rico, I can say with such an enthusiasm and affection which I still hold until this day! I have my fourth grandparent being African American and Cherokee Indian. Hindsight, for me it is no mystery why I had such a conflicted identity crisis, especially entering high school.
Now, many individuals may face similar dilemmas nowadays as interracial couples and mixed children are now so very common.
I am mixed, grew up on parts of the west and east sides of Buffalo and had a privilege of attending a parochial high school which was predominately Caucasian.
Nevertheless, I quoted Brendon Burchard as a predictor of what a person in such a situation as I may need to reference. As with many individuals this statement resonates with me since I struggled with acceptance from several cultures. Now, I aim for authentic relationships, based on fundamental core values like honesty, kindness, respect and love.
To me, it’s important to know who you are within so that you can work without limitations and unnecessary boundaries on expected personality traits based on outward appearance. Go ahead, get to know and love who you are right now. And, then go ahead and get to know others well and spread more love.
Many best wishes to you as you also remember to enjoy your day, everyday
Ruthy Harris is available to speak about her experience as a “PUERTO RICAN WITH DARK SKIN”, and other topics of interest to the growth and development of our cultures and communities. Email us: firstname.lastname@example.org / 646-248-2302
June 2019 Issue
I’ve always wondered why in my past I hadn’t succeeded in a way I considered a triumph. I spent years in pursuit of what at some point had become an eluded dream fading in the distance like a boat leaving the dock, even more elusive as time passed. I’ve always pondered what could be the difference between myself and my peers that I considered successful. I hadn’t realized I wasn’t exactly happy until 40 years of age. Yes, not content with my actions and where I had landed at that point in my life.
Today, I share what the difference was and may be for most people that find themselves with similar thoughts. Yes, I had suffered years of not feeling complete in my desired goals. Because I lived casually, I did not feel accomplished. I live boldly a life of full intention. Hence what prompted me to rigorously pursue my dreams and put foot to the metal and drive full force ahead, knowing that if I shoot for the moon and miss, I land among the stars (org. credit quote to Norman Vincent Peale). Now, keeping in mind whom we consider “stars” may vary, nonetheless, a state of feeling accomplished, successful and for some, “simply happy”, is a place we can all relate to.
So today, “Do you start your day casually or intentionally?” Intention, meaning with purposeful action moment to moment toward a desired state of being or desired place of arrival. Consider, “are you losing by default or winning on purpose!”
Who, What & Where because the Ordinary can Produce the Extraordinary!
Who am I?
What am I doing?
And where am I going?
We should ask this of every aspect of our lives.
A classic set of questions, I cannot take credit for creating that may seem mundane; however, they offer valuable insights to our destination.
Who am I consists of the essence of what we may choose to do at every given moment. So, I beckon you to question yourself – Who am I?
Then declare what you will do.
What I am will directly impact in which direction I go. So, what am I doing today, right now, that brings me closer to my desired goal and destination?
Have I arrived? While answers may vary. There is always a need for navigation.
Who am I?
What am I doing?
And where am I going?
So that continuance in a positive direction may occur.
Ruthy Harris is an Administrative Support & Project Assistant at Blossom Achieve Excel. She has a love for writing and has been creating words since the sixth grade. She resides in Buffalo, NY. Win on Purpose is her first Buffalo Latino Village column, look for her next column in July’s issue.